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Cake day: December 16th, 2025

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  • the more you know 🌈

    I like to think I’ve encountered a lot of common American vs. British spelling differences. I like to help people proofread stuff. Because I know these differences exist, I’ve gotten to the point where I sometimes have to look up spellings to see if it’s a mistake or just a regional variation that I haven’t encountered before/forgot about.


  • As a short younger woman, I like the excuse to climb on shelves a bit (even though it’s really just me standing on the bottom shelf for maybe 3 extra inches if I am certain it’s sturdy enough). When I age and this maneuver carries more risk, maybe I’ll shift to making others feel useful :P

    The real short person playground maneuvers happen at home in my kitchen. Top-shelf item on the cabinet? Maneuver myself into sitting on the counter, and stretch to reach.



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    9 days ago

    This is c/NiceMemes, not c/ThatHappened. Every single time I come into the comments on a post like this there’s some person going “actually this is fake” or “not so wholesome, here’s why” or “and the bad conditions for this heartwarming story to happen required these political things which I hate and doomed [locale].” Sometimes the Threadiverse feels like that draw 20 meme: let there be a space for positivity without 1) raining on the parade, 2) injecting negativity, or 3) turning it into an angry-politics-rant like the entire rest of the Threadiverse, or draw 20. I’m getting really tired of it; and also of my own self for never learning and still clicking into comments from time to time.

    I do worry that by really not liking that comment and telling you about it, I’m just pounding on someone trying to correct misinformation and tone policing though (because goodness knows I wouldn’t have gotten so irritated if this had more of a “hey, just so you know, want to protect people and make sure they don’t fall for things” tone instead of the more abrasive one you took). I worry about the right thing to do with negativity in positivity/wholesome communities here in a more measured, less frustrated manner.



  • Sometimes I think about the lives led by fictional characters, and “man I’m glad we’re not them!” kicks in. I like having wildlife on this planet that 1) I like seeing that 2) doesn’t pose a threat to me. I like having simple food I like to eat instead of bad-tasting rations. I like having the sky we do instead of some weird sci-fi/fantasy “one clue to how our world is in trouble can be clearly seen by the untrained eye in our sky!” thing. Makes me grateful for things I take for granted.


  • I hate yelling when I can talk at a reasonable volume into my magic rectangle. I suppose this is a generational divide.

    Genuinely curious, not “how to sneakily convert them into doing it my way”: wonder if those who prefer yelling to phone use would feel the same way if the options were instead to choose between 1) yelling or using a walkie-talkie; or 2) yelling or using a megaphone.



  • Genuinely, I think that if l have the power to ruin someone’s day by being an utter asshole, I can also make someone’s day if I’m kind (especially if they weren’t expecting it or were having a rough day—though whether I fill those two conditions is harder to know for quick interactions between strangers). I might not change the world, but I do still have the power to affect others, and I can try to use it for good.











  • The people at !wholesome@reddthat.com and !nicememes@sopuli.xyz and !thelittlethings@lemmy.cafe would probably like to know about this. !thelittlethings seems to overlap in intent too, although it does not seem very active from what I see on my instance, so you might want to message the mod. Thanks, I really appreciate positivity communities.

    part of why I appreciate it, mentions negativity and depressing stuff

    Joy is resisting, especially if you are vulnerable to doomscrolling bad news about how people are treating folks like yourself without humanity, how you are going to be in the firing line next… if you are happy instead of constantly miserable from people treating you as lesser, that’s definitely not the will of certain powers that be. Examples of happy people who are like yourself are necessary too. Especially ones you can meet in your community instead of them being some story you read online, so you know it’s an achievable possibility for you too, not someone on the other side of the planet. Also, it means you are giving your time to yourself and your joy instead of endlessly getting stuck in distressing news loops and doing a tiny bit of enriching others via ad dollars.



  • Birthdays and the like used to feel inherently special as a kid, as an adult no longer and it just feels like another day. But I still like to celebrate because it’s a nice excuse to see people I care about or treat myself to something nice, or to just relax. I don’t believe we should always do things just because that is what is done, but this is one place I’m happy to just do things because the rest of society does and thinks I “should.” We get something nice out of it, and those who are not interested in celebrating are free to opt out (which I’ve done a few times too, and didn’t regret it.)

    For example, I don’t think Valentine’s Day itself is all that important, but it’s a good reminder to pay attention to your loved ones and spend time with them, and because it is enough of a societal thing there are things done (think a couples’ dinner special at a restaurant or something) to help you do just that. So a lot of people do celebrate on the day. Some will celebrate on a different day to avoid higher prices on the day of the usual celebration. Some will totally disregard.

    But that’s just me. It might be different for others.










  • People have already written about how in the United States of America, the zone is being flooded, and I happen to live there. I am prone to doomscrolling about the negative things going on to the point of being almost paralyzed, doing nothing but scrolling headlines for the rest of the day, convincing myself it is alright because I am “staying informed” and “maybe it’ll outrage me/make me fearful enough to push me into actually doing something to help.” But I don’t ever actually help anyone as a result of all that scrolling. Or do anything to help myself. Or anything necessary for my own wellbeing. It really is paralyzing for me.

    I notice when I aggressively curate that content out successfully and instead my online feed has more positivity and zero headlines about people suffering, I actually do something about others’ suffering, even if it’s just a small, manageable drop in the bucket instead of a large act of martyrdom.

    I am prone to rumination and negative thinking and cynicism myself, yet I find people who mostly complain constantly unpleasant to be around, even if I agree with their complaints. In an effort to avoid hypocrisy, to avoid being the very thing I don’t like in others, I am trying to be more positive. And that means trying to find communities that act positive, and trying to contribute positivity myself. Practice towards being who I want to be.

    I have the demographics of minority groups many consider oppressed, and recognize how lucky I am that I haven’t faced any of the things I’m “supposed” to have faced. I’d like to have a break from seeing headlines that remind me that my luck is very very likely to forcibly run out within the next three years. They certainly will not invigorate me to do anything about it.

    I, like most people, have a brain that can be hijacked by outrage and will click on controversy. I think I’ve gotten to the point where I’d rather have measured conversations with smart people I trust about issues, who can also keep me in check if I go wrong, instead of looking to the latest online fight full of hot takes, bad faith, people acting in good faith but misinterpreting each other, and all the many problems that have happened/been exacerbated with the rise of social media. This means shutting out negativity and running towards positivity.

    And yet I still think about the negative bad things often, the headlines I’ll see in public or overhear people talking about. It’s not like I’m oblivious.

    I really really think it’s okay to try to stick my head in the sand for now when the air is being filled with proverbial poison gas intentionally trying to make people despair and feel hopeless and paralyzed instead of trying to resist, and I have a known tendency to be vulnerable to that.