First question: have you considered finding a woman in the same predicament? You’d have a lot in common and she’d understand where you’re coming from. I wouldn’t go to a support group with the intention of finding a date specifically, but honestly getting out and connecting with other people, or even just connecting online, could go a long way towards alleviating some of your loneliness.
Another facet I think is super important to mention here, a lot of people meet other people by being introduced by someone else. This is a big part of why it’s so important to develop and do hobbies and pastimes and attend culturally unifying gatherings like religious ceremonies and festivals. While moving away from religion has had some benefits, we haven’t really paid much attention to replacing it’s social benefits, such as giving people a place to go on a regular schedule, which is one of the key factors in forming long-term bonds.
If you’re asking if I would personally date you, I have no idea, I’ve never met you, you’re probably not my partner’s type, and I really don’t go solo anymore these days. I will tell you what I told my partner about the “in sickness and in health” bit: I’m not going to be a primary day-to-day caregiver, there would need to be a home health aid 98% of the time and I would just pitch in if they weren’t available or needed a hand. I also refuse to deal with any man who does not take an effective leading role in their own care. I’ve gotten sucked into too many fixer-upper men (only with mental illness thus far) and I’m not putting myself anywhere near that position ever again. I can’t believe I got to the point in my life that I’ve had to add “calls own psychiatrist independently” to my list of criteria but here we are.
First question: have you considered finding a woman in the same predicament? You’d have a lot in common and she’d understand where you’re coming from. I wouldn’t go to a support group with the intention of finding a date specifically, but honestly getting out and connecting with other people, or even just connecting online, could go a long way towards alleviating some of your loneliness.
Another facet I think is super important to mention here, a lot of people meet other people by being introduced by someone else. This is a big part of why it’s so important to develop and do hobbies and pastimes and attend culturally unifying gatherings like religious ceremonies and festivals. While moving away from religion has had some benefits, we haven’t really paid much attention to replacing it’s social benefits, such as giving people a place to go on a regular schedule, which is one of the key factors in forming long-term bonds.
If you’re asking if I would personally date you, I have no idea, I’ve never met you, you’re probably not my partner’s type, and I really don’t go solo anymore these days. I will tell you what I told my partner about the “in sickness and in health” bit: I’m not going to be a primary day-to-day caregiver, there would need to be a home health aid 98% of the time and I would just pitch in if they weren’t available or needed a hand. I also refuse to deal with any man who does not take an effective leading role in their own care. I’ve gotten sucked into too many fixer-upper men (only with mental illness thus far) and I’m not putting myself anywhere near that position ever again. I can’t believe I got to the point in my life that I’ve had to add “calls own psychiatrist independently” to my list of criteria but here we are.