Your second paragraph is just the point I am trying to make no? People can’t choose who they love or are attracted (or not attracted) to.
So I am uncomfortable with the suggestion that any cis person who doesnt want to date a trans person should set up a disclaimer on their profile, with the afterthought insinuating that they shouldn’t have an issue with that unless they are secretly transphobic, or trans averse as you put it.
Personally I (as a straight cis dude) am very supportive of equal rights for non straight people, and think they are a beautiful facet of mankind. I would be fully supporting most of their causes, but that doesnt mean I am suddenly attracted to, broadly speaking, not cis women. I can’t change that, or make an exception for someone, that’s simply not how I was wired. Would you consider that trans averse? Honest question.
I’m bi and would date trans people so it’s difficult to relate. I wouldn’t write “only interested in (for example) white people” on a profile because it may imply racism, even though there may be no hate and the intention would be to just save both people’s time.
I use the word aversion to make a distinction between other people who hate. Someone who feels sick seeing a same-sex kiss is having an aversion to homosexuality but that doesn’t mean they hate, or want to kill and could be an ally in all ways. So yes, I would say not wanting to date trans people falls into a category of aversion by my definition, but that’s my brain trying to sort things. I don’t mean anything bad by it.
Your second paragraph is just the point I am trying to make no? People can’t choose who they love or are attracted (or not attracted) to.
So I am uncomfortable with the suggestion that any cis person who doesnt want to date a trans person should set up a disclaimer on their profile, with the afterthought insinuating that they shouldn’t have an issue with that unless they are secretly transphobic, or trans averse as you put it.
Personally I (as a straight cis dude) am very supportive of equal rights for non straight people, and think they are a beautiful facet of mankind. I would be fully supporting most of their causes, but that doesnt mean I am suddenly attracted to, broadly speaking, not cis women. I can’t change that, or make an exception for someone, that’s simply not how I was wired. Would you consider that trans averse? Honest question.
I’m bi and would date trans people so it’s difficult to relate. I wouldn’t write “only interested in (for example) white people” on a profile because it may imply racism, even though there may be no hate and the intention would be to just save both people’s time.
I use the word aversion to make a distinction between other people who hate. Someone who feels sick seeing a same-sex kiss is having an aversion to homosexuality but that doesn’t mean they hate, or want to kill and could be an ally in all ways. So yes, I would say not wanting to date trans people falls into a category of aversion by my definition, but that’s my brain trying to sort things. I don’t mean anything bad by it.