I don’t get it. What does my mom’s sexuality have to do with me? Also, why is sleeping with someone that’s ~25 years older something to brag about?

  • Spuddlesv2@lemmy.ca
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    4 months ago

    If this were the case then “I fucked your dad” would be just as common an insult, with all the same connotations.

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      4 months ago

      I feel like most people who would do this (males trying to seem “alpha”) probably wouldn’t be comfortable saying that, for whatever reason.

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        The whatever reason bring that they’d have played themselves because homophobia.

        I imagine the potency of yo mama jokes that focus on banging her, as opposed to accentuating how ugly she is, comes from the discomfort of sexualizing someone that you want to not have sexualized given your intimacy with her. Reframing your mom as a sexual being rewrites the experience of affection with her, for example.

        The ugliness piece devalues someone precious to you.

        I also thinks it’s just a rules of the game that people decide on and then forget. Participating in a game about who will gets upset, everyone implicitly agrees that this is something they can fall prey to having a reaction about. Sort of social game theory

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          I dont think the kind of person who torments you with constant motherly disrespect in school would he fazed by the suggestion that they are homophobic since they only target your mother. That’s not a good gotcha at all, at best they would laugh and agree with you.

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      4 months ago

      yeah those get thrown around in my friend group sometimes too. I think “i fucked your parent” jokes are usually made by straight dudes (which there’s a lot to unpack there) though, so it’s more common for them to go for the gender they’re attracted to. Not always tho

      I think the person I responded to isn’t wrong, just that it’s not the whole picture. I was/am trying to “yes, and” their comment