• mydoomlessaccount@infosec.pub
    12·
    4 days ago

    I have learned to circumvent this issue by simply never being important enough to be invited to formal events.

    It’s worked well thus far, though nobody seems to notice.

  • shameless@lemmy.world
    702·
    5 days ago

    100% men have denied men from having cute outfits for too long! Be the change you want to see in the world

    • observes_depths@aussie.zone
      5·
      4 days ago

      To save some people a minute, from Wikipedia:

      The Great Male Renunciation is the historical phenomenon at the end of the 18th century in which wealthy Western men stopped using bright colours, elaborate shapes and variety in their dress, which were left to women’s clothing. Instead, men concentrated on minute differences of cut, and the quality of the plain cloth. Coined by British psychologist John Flügel in 1930, it is considered a major turning point in the history of clothing in which the men relinquished their claim to adornment and beauty.

  • fallentides@lemmy.one
    514·
    5 days ago

    We ladies must look desirable; the fashion styles changed to accentuate my hips and my tits, my baby making parts. That’s all I’m here to do anyways. Historically, prly religion upholding the patriarch; same difference. Hide them elbows and ankles!

    • pmk@lemmy.sdf.org
      33·
      5 days ago

      As a man, I wish clothes would make me feel desirable. I have asked my girlfriend which clothes she would like to see me in, but she says it’s not about the clothes. That it doesn’t matter. It’s more about what I do. So I just dress in plain, comfortable, practical clothes which makes me, well, practical. Useful. I often wish I had options to just be desired for my body, without the pressure to achieve this or that to be desirable. It’s a source of sadness for me.

      • greedytacothief@lemmy.world
        11·
        5 days ago

        I mean, looking like you know what you’re doing, looking confident doesn’t mean you have to dress plain.

        Also I am sure gym bros will complement you on your body. Kind of like how as a straight man I only get compliments on my facial hair from other men. Look for validation from your friends not randos

        • pmk@lemmy.sdf.org
          3·
          4 days ago

          True, I don’t have to dress plain, but if clothes make no difference for her, I just wear what I feel most comfortable in. I know how I react when I see her in yoga pants, and I wish I had the option to affect her similarly through clothing.

          • greedytacothief@lemmy.world
            1·
            4 days ago

            Comfort can be about how you look. I have some clothes that are super comfortable, but if I wore them out in public I would be arrested because I look like a drug dealer. Find something comfy in the way that it reflects how you want to be seen

      • Gebruikersnaam@lemmy.ml
        41·
        4 days ago

        I felt like this as well, but it turns out it was gender dysphoria for me all along. Men being completely invisible is one of the hardest parts of being masc.

      • sneekee_snek_17@lemmy.world
        2·
        4 days ago

        I mean, I’m 30 and a non traditional college student. If the weather is agreeable, I have a few nice sweaters that I’ll wear with an undershirt, dark jeans, and I’ve got a pair of Loake boots that are very nice.

        I feel GREAT when I dress like that, and get quite a few glances throughout the day. Also my wife eyeballs me as I leave the house.

  • spiffy_spaceman@lemmy.world
    82·
    4 days ago

    Have you seen the way old men dress? Everything is gray or brown with the least amount of shape or texture. It’s like boomers collectively agreed to be as uniform and boring as possible. There used to be as much style and individuality in men’s fashion as women’s, but sometime around the end of the 1800s they all said “let’s just all wear this one plain thing for the next 200 years.”