So straight out the gate: I don’t ever really flirt (yes, even if I like the girl). And I’m not sure whether I should change strategies. So hence my question.

Note: I am a guy.

Edit: Thank you all for your input. I have come to the realisation I need to let the other party (better) know I am romantically interested in them. Either by means of flirtation or otherwise.

  • peanuts4life@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    6 days ago

    Flirting is a pretty nebulous term.

    My personal definition of flirting is any positive expression or behavior which:

    1. Is an exception to your typical behavior or affect.
    2. Targeted at a specific person, typically someone new.
    3. Is heightened or marked by increased volume, nervousness, etc.

    examples:

    A typically reserved guy pulling you aside and animatedly asking about your interest.

    A woman who normally doesn’t touch you is repeatedly teasing you about your shirt, pulling on the fabric.

    A good friend begins to repeatedly and unexpectedly invite you over for one on one movie nights despite obvious inconveniences.

    That’s just my opinion, though. I believe most people are looking for these heightened expressions of flirting to confirm interest.