So straight out the gate: I don’t ever really flirt (yes, even if I like the girl). And I’m not sure whether I should change strategies. So hence my question.

Note: I am a guy.

Edit: Thank you all for your input. I have come to the realisation I need to let the other party (better) know I am romantically interested in them. Either by means of flirtation or otherwise.

  • Fat Tony@lemm.eeOP
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    Damn, that’s without a doubt a perfect synopsis of what’s going on here. Seriously, I’m impressed.

    “What difference would the answer make?”

    If the answer is: “Yes, it’s very important.” Then I know what to improve. If the answer is something along the lines of: “The important part is the connection between the two parties.” Then I don’t know what to do, to be honest.

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      Ok, then to be very clear, yes it matters a lot. I’m a slut. I’ve had an amount of casual and easy sex that it feels cringe talking about on the internet. I’m also married. I always start with flirtation and if someone doesn’t flirt back I stop. Because the alternative is to keep hitting on someone who may be uninterested, which is what creeps do. Theres a range of time that it’s ok to flirt without flirting back, but yeah if you dont initiate and you don’t reciprocate only creeps will ask you out