Dating is odd to me. I do not really know what my motivations are. If I actually find someone. What then? What will we do? How different will our relationship be from a regular friendship (besides you know what). And should it be?

Should you be wanting to do other things with your SO then a very good friend?

What I’m getting at is, have you ever thought to someone: “They don’t really want a relationship they just want a one particular friend with benefits.”

I don’t know if I’m rambling over here. But I’m really having difficulty digesting this one.

Edit: The reason I ask is because I’m thinking to start dating again but I don’t know my end goal.

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      10 months ago

      OK, perhaps I was exaggerating a bit. Perhaps it’s more like 10 to 12, but the point still remains that you have to occupy the rest of that time and it’s best if you have a good friend to do that with.

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      10 months ago

      He said “At best”.

      It’s not so unreasonable if you have an open interpretation of what counts as sex. Certainly PiV penetration won’t last that long by itself. But if you count foreplay, the afterglow, and subsequent sessions all as one, it becomes reasonable, especially in your 20s.

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        10 months ago

        What the fuck is with this thread and all the insane people saying with seriousness that sex last 8 hours… I can’t handle it