I’m beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.

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    What is the process for dudes?

    I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate

    So you intend to impregnate a woman, wait (doing nothing) all the time of her pregnancy and giving birth, then take her child away from her, and call that a “process” and you still think of yourself not being a huge AH… I am impressed… somehow.

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      Isn’t that how surrogacy works? Just don’t forget the money changing hands obvsly

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        Isn’t that how surrogacy works?

        I don’t know. It is forbidden anyway.

        Just don’t forget the money

        Yes I forgot LOL. It hasn’t that much meaning for me. In such situations, money is just a replacement for force/violence.

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          Everything is violence, against you in particular, because of whatever group you happen to affiliate with. And everyone should bow down to your view of the world because you say so. Ok, good luck with that.

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          It’s legal in many places including US. So it’s not as verboten as all that…

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              Have you heard of self introspection? Maybe try it, because you sound exactly like MAGA racists, you just happen to be deluded in another direction.

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              I’d say it’s a grey area. There are couples that can’t have children and want them. There are women that like being pregnant but have too many kids. Yes they exist. Put those two together and magic happens

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                NO! This goes against my dogma! Everything is black and white and I am right and you are wrong and how DARE you? Et cetera!

                I’m so done with this dumb shit.

                Edit: yep, like clockwork- downvote and say nothing, then message your little club and have them cancel me, because you literally have nothing to say and can’t stand being challenged because you’re really not about any of this, you just want attention and lord over others.

                It’s fucking pathetic.

                Just like racists.

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                    Nope!

                    Sorry you got caught catching strays haha!

                    It’s all good. Sometimes these outrage artists just get to me you know?

                    Stare long enough into the abyss I guess…