I’m beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.

  • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 days ago

    What is the difference, dude? If you are raising kids, just because they biologically didn’t come from your sperm doesn’t mean they aren’t effectively your children now. Or are you one of those step dads who doesn’t consider their children to be their real kids???

    It sounds like you already are a father…

    • nicgentile@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      2 days ago

      I am a guardian. That arrangement is coming to an end. It was meant to be temporary, and that is now happening. I am moving to a different state across the country once that comes to an end. This is what I am thinking after ending this part of my life. I hope you explore the rest of the post to learn more.

      • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        2 days ago

        I read a fair amount of your comments, but did not see details about you moving away and the guardianship ending.

        You keep responding messages like this to people. Put all of the relevant information in the OP. Excluding massive key details and expecting everyone to stalk your profile until they know every detail about you is not reasonable for conversation.

        • nicgentile@lemmy.worldOP
          23·
          2 days ago

          I’m not being unreasonable, but here we are, so let me make this easy.

          moving to California… coming to an end…

          The guardianship is ending cause the legal processes around the welfare of the children is coming to an end, around the time my legal issue is expected to end. Two separate legal processes. The children are my niece and two nephews. However, remember that all I wanted to know was how this process of becoming a dad with a donor situation could potentially work. I did not expect this would morph into all of this.