So straight out the gate: I don’t ever really flirt (yes, even if I like the girl). And I’m not sure whether I should change strategies. So hence my question.
Note: I am a guy.
Edit: Thank you all for your input. I have come to the realisation I need to let the other party (better) know I am romantically interested in them. Either by means of flirtation or otherwise.
That’s like saying you don’t put in job applications and are trying to figure out why you can’t find employment
OP be like “Okay and how big (would you say) is that job applications part?”
Like I dunno dude, how are we supposed to quantify that shit? It’s just part of the dance
Better question we could give OP is “What difference would the answer make?” like is OP trying to figure out whether he can skip it or how much time to invest in practicing it or what lol. this is such a ridiculous thread
Damn, that’s without a doubt a perfect synopsis of what’s going on here. Seriously, I’m impressed.
If the answer is: “Yes, it’s very important.” Then I know what to improve. If the answer is something along the lines of: “The important part is the connection between the two parties.” Then I don’t know what to do, to be honest.
Ok, then to be very clear, yes it matters a lot. I’m a slut. I’ve had an amount of casual and easy sex that it feels cringe talking about on the internet. I’m also married. I always start with flirtation and if someone doesn’t flirt back I stop. Because the alternative is to keep hitting on someone who may be uninterested, which is what creeps do. Theres a range of time that it’s ok to flirt without flirting back, but yeah if you dont initiate and you don’t reciprocate only creeps will ask you out
Yeah for how big is it? It’s so basic I’ve never considered it might be why some people aren’t getting laid. I’m more likely to assume someone doesnt shower than that they don’t flirt