My buddies obituary mentioned how much he loved where he worked.
He had been there for maybe two months.
I refuse to allow any mention of where I was forced to go everyday so I could afford food. Screw that.
It’s like one of those template things that people need to say at a funeral, regardless of the truth.
When my mum’s stepdad died they said he was beloved and a good man, when actually he was a nasty piece of work that no one liked 🤷♂️
Joan Crawford’s nurses were praying at her bedside as she lay dying. She said, “damn it! Don’t you dare ask God to help me!” Those were her last words.
I love her for that.
See, your problem there is having people at your funeral. I’m so lonely, no one’s even going to notice when I’ve died! Ha! Take that!
There’s hopefully plenty of time between now and then for that to change, friend!
I never understood the point of funerals
Funerals are for the people close to the person who has passed. It’s to help cope with grief, and accepting that the person they knew is gone.
For many it is helpful, but maybe not everyone grieves in the same way, and that’s ok too.
Of course I’ve heard the reasons you mention here, just can’t wrap my mind around them. Here they embalm the body and inflate it back up, dress it up in a nice suit or dress and make up, then a viewing in the funeral home like the day before the funeral where people go to look at usually unnatural looking version of the person. Some cry… Then casket is open before the funeral again and more people look at it, many cry… The another kinda procession to the gravesite and the burial… More people cry… Then to top it all off there is a big party that night with food, alcohol and music where people dance, laugh and drink… A real party… 😂🤦♂️
Sure, the modern Western culture of funerals might not be so great, especially the open casket stuff.
But saying goodbye and maybe having a party with your still living closest ones, can be helpful for many. It’s very much a “life goes on” situation.
The party part is nice… It’s all the other stuff I’m not into. Not to mention that here it’s very expensive and often a burden on the family. I gotta make a will and request no funeral at all. Have a party if you want and talk about all the dumb bullshit I did and said and laugh 😂
My mother, as she grows older, is thinking about her passing and planning for it. Nothings wrong, she’s just a planner.
She is looking into donating her corpse to science.
Med students need cadavers to practice on, grisly, but better than being a human guinea pig for some Doc’s first attempt at surgical intervention.
Or, there was a story that made rounds about a guys mother whose body was used in testing explosives by the military. If I get a choice I want that option, since apparently funeral pyres are illegal these days.
The high price is very much an exploitation of people’s grief for profit. Using their emotional connection to argue that they “should” pay a lot. It sucks real bad.
For my mother we didn’t really have a funeral. The funeral home did the generic stuff and dressed her in just her own regular nice clothes and the family members who wanted to see her just went into a room she was in. It was like a day or two after she had died while we still had to do the paperwork and then we had her cremated. I don’t think funerals, especially open casket and the whole carrying the casket thing is really that common anymore
Here it’s still big, island life. Funerals are long and huge. I like your style you described.
I loved you though
