With surveys reporting that an increasing number of young men are subscribing to these beliefs, the number of women finding that their partners share the misogynistic views espoused by the likes of Andrew Tate is also on the rise. Research from anti-fascism organisation Hope Not Hate, which polled about 2,000 people across the UK aged 16 to 24, discovered that 41% of young men support Tate versus just 12% of young women.

“Numbers are growing, with wives worried about their husbands and partners becoming radicalised,” says Nigel Bromage, a reformed neo-Nazi who is now the director of Exit Hate Trust, a charity that helps people who want to leave the far right.

“Wives or partners become really worried about the impact on their family, especially those with young children, as they fear they will be influenced by extremism and racism.”

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    Occasionally my partner does or says some things that remind me of the “manosphere” aka 4chan neckbeards.

    And when it happens, we talk about it. I don’t pretend or let it go as “he doesn’t mean it” or “he doesn’t know what he’s saying”. I don’t get mad and he doesn’t get mad. We have an adult discussion and I’m careful not to talk down to him.

    A perfect example was that he sometimes says “females” when he means “women”. I explain that it’s not a swear word but it’s still derogatory. I explain why. Once I did, he understood and stopped doing it.

    It doesn’t have to be a big deal! Communication is key!

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      As long as you also made sure that if he does say it again he has to pronounce it like tamales

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        I laughed at this and now I’m going to do that in my head whenever I see that word

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      i don’t know how could anyone watch Star Trek DS9 and still call women “females” like a Ferengi

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        serious answer: by consistently running and reading experiments that refer to male and female patients.

        I try my best, but if I’ve read three-four papers in a day about a topic and all of them use male and female, probably gonna accidentally say female.

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      Communication is key

      Sure, but honestly it sounds tiring if this kind of discussion is a recurring thing.

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        I appreciate that he is willing to learn and grow. We all make mistakes. If you understand why it’s offensive and keep doing it, yeah red flag.

        I think the ability to change with new information is admirable.

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            So, are you agreeing that your first comment was useless or that the comment you’re replying to isn’t? Can’t have it both ways.

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        I think it depends on how often they’re coming up with dubious takes, and how often there are repeats.

        Like if you have to explain that gay people are just trying to live life, and that’s fixing misinformation they got as a youth, fine. Good, even. But if you have that talk and then have to have to again a month later because they “forgot” or picked up more bad ideas? Concerning.

        Friend of a friend was always getting talks to patch up his dicey world view, but then he’d go back to the same YouTube or shitty friends and come back two weeks later with a fresh batch of bad ideas. Really have to get to the root of the problem

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        I’m guessing you’re single.

        Everyone, keep in mind, there’s a lot of losers on the internet who will never find love and don’t want you to find love, either.

        Don’t end up like them unless you want to.