Two days ago, I did an AMA about my current life situation, and I really enjoyed it. I find these super fun for some reason, so I’m back with another one! Same request as last time: please, no judgment or unkind replies. Thank you! 🤍
I’ll start with the obvious: how old are you? The dynamic of 18 and 43 is much different than 35 and 60.
18 since February.
Run.
Before you started the relationship, would you have judged another person in the same position/relationship?
No, I’ve always been a curious person - never a judgmental one.
That’s nice. Would you describe your relationship as traditional (whatever that means for you)?
No. In my mind, “traditional” means toxic, oppressive, controlling - in other words, not good or healthy things.
Agreed. How does that express itself in your relationship? And have you been in a traditional relationship before?
Why would you say traditional is toxic? There are many relationships that have existed throughout history that are not toxic and based on love and connection. Unless we’re interpreting traditional differently.
Because that’s the version of “traditional” I’ve witnessed on a sociocultural level.
How did this come to be?
We met in June 2023 through my best friend - he’s her boyfriend’s widowed uncle. I liked him, and he liked me. At the time, my biggest goal was to leave home, and after spending about two months together, I decided to move in with him in August.
So he literally groomed you?
I’m not going to engage in the online “grooming” debate - it’s pointless, and I don’t feel the need to defend or justify my relationship.
I think it’s something you should think critically about since you moved in with him 2 years ago (16?) you aren’t a fully cooked human yet at that age.
You were underage. I don’t see a debate just a fact.
