Yes! Exactly! And you also have to both know and trust each others limits. If you offer for your partner to spank you, and you’re expecting a light little funishment, but they go full ham, and blister and bruise your ass, you’re both going to have a bad time.

But if you both know and expect similiar ideas, and thats whats engaged in, respecting limits, and respecting consent, and respecting bountries, it can be a lot of fun.