32m here and ive been on dating apps for over 10 years and think they’ve gotten worse since the whole swiping algorithm. I always do max swipes daily on fb dating, tinder, and bumble with minimum to no success. Tinder being the worst of the three. Ik irl is better, I just am not good at it with social anxiety and overthinking. Anybody find what works on these apps if you’re an average looking man?
But then you meet either normies or other male nerds, depending on whether you pretend to like normal stuff or actually do the stuff you really like.
I wish old OkCupid was still a thing. There were still way more men than women there but at least it was possible to find the interesting women.
I mean, you’ll have to choose a hobby or w/e that puts you into a compatible crowd. If you’re interested in women, don’t choose something that’s male-dominated.
…also idk what ‘normie’ means to you, but it’s actually okay to date someone who isn’t a carbon-copy of yourself as a different gender. My wife isn’t into hardly any of the nerdy shit that I am, nor vice versa, but there’s enough overlap that we don’t generally struggle to find things to do together; but enough that’s distinct that we can explore our own interests when the other isn’t available. What’s way more important is you enjoy eachother’s perosnality. Specific interests, field of study etc absolutely do not need to be on the same page.
So again, pick something. It doesn’t have to be your favorite thing to do; if you enjoy it even a little, there’s your like-minded overlap.