I’m 56. I hang out with 5 to 6 friends 10 times a month on average. Mostly to play tabletop games. Sometimes I meet one or two for lunch.
Once a month, when I lived in a place where I resided for multiple years. Now that I relocated and I know literally one person in a non-work capacity, once a quarter probably.
I’ve got one friend who’s super social but doesn’t have many friends herself, so she tries to see me almost every day. Realistically I probably see her 2-3 times per month. Other than her, I only really have two friends I hang out with in person. Each one is probably once a month or so, maybe every other month. I’ve also got a friend I like to play games online with, that used to be a weekly thing one time but we haven’t played together in a few months. I’ve got a little bit of time off work right now so I should probably try to hop on with him before I go back.
Most weeks I go out and see a friend at least once. I prefer to go out twice a week though but I’m still establishing myself socially in a new city
I’m 31. The secret is hobbies and finding ways to make them social and actually making plans to hang out with friends. You can just invite another couple for dinner, or host a PowerPoint or board game party. Seriously ask yourself if you have friends who might be interested in a Halloween party if you don’t have plans to attend one.
What friends?
The big fall off is around 28-30 when most people are committing to families. After that you’re lucky to see them once and awhile.
once in a while
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If you count discord, just about every night. We have a whole list of things we rotate between from movies, games, and brain rot videos.
In person, once every few months. We get together for some holidays, events, etc.
I’m 48. I have a few buddies that I rarely see in my hometown. I travel once or twice a year on a city break to drink and eat with a few old pals.
But yeah, generally I don’t not hang with anyone outside my own wife and kids and extended fam. This isn’t through choice, it just seems to be the way things have gone.
I see friends every weekday when I walk my kids to school and whenwthe kids have playdates, and when I take my kids to the school playground on the weekend. And on bowling night once a week, and on band night once a week (but I don’t go every week). Also I’m married to my best friend.
30 here and all of my friends are people I met online. We chat every day, but only see each other for a weekend every few years at a convention. My friends are all younger than me with some finishing up college and others just having full time jobs. None have a wife and/or kids though (hell I’m the only one in the group with actual relationship experience with only 1 other having experience in just random 1 night hookups).
35+, many times a week if you count discord and gaming. Otherwise maybe once every six months, unless you count sports, then maybe once a week on average.
Probably several times a year. My best mate lives in a different country, everyone has young kids so things always take ages to arrange.
Really, society needs more part-time jobs. 4 hoursa day, or 3 days of 10 hours should be the standard. That way, you can throw the rest into actually taking care of yourself and your family.
4 days at 10 hours with 3 days off is the way, as long as work-life balance is respected by the job. That would definitely go a long way towards both aligning schedules and giving enough time to address other needs with some leftover for personal care and maintaining social connections.
Not to say I don’t appreciate finally having a full-time gig that at least gives me weekends off, which I desperately needed after years of irregular part-time work that made it impossible to plan my life more than two weeks out and never seemed to align my days off with other people. But I already essentially work 7:00-17:00 Monday through Friday (and of course that extra time over 40 hours isn’t paid). The 10 hour days aren’t a problem for me, but I would really like to have an extra day off in compensation for that.
I try to see someone at least weekly.
Getting close to 40 and I spend time with friends probably on average 2-3 times a week. I’m a sociable person but do have a low social battery, so need a lot of time alone/just with my partner. Me and some close friends put on music events so we naturally spend a lot of time together which is nice.
Not often enough. Some friends have multiple kids and others with multiple jobs but we try to hang at least every few weeks.
