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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • Of course not. I’m in love with a whole person, not her appearance. I love her fierce intellect, her passion for justice, her wanderer’s spirit. I love that we can sit together and watch anything only for it to lead to a new and endlessly fascinating discussion.

    Makeup doesn’t affect any of that.

    I like how makeup highlights her favorite features or hides when she feels tired or insecure. I like that it helps her feel more fully herself. I think it’s great that makeup can do that for her.

    She will always be attractive to me for who she is. How she looked may have helped me first talk to her, but who she is has kept us talking for 16 years.








  • I’ll disagree about age. At 23, the pre-frontal cortex is still developing and won’t be finished until around 25.

    It’s responsible for:

    • Executive functions (planning, decision-making, problem-solving)
    • Impulse control
    • Emotional regulation
    • Social interactions and behavior

    There is a distinct imbalance between someone in their 60’s and someone in their early 20’s. I’m not saying it can’t be carefully and respectfully navigated, but it has to be acknowledged and accounted for.

    It doesn’t sound like that happened here.

    Then we have the power dynamic of a celebrity who is also your employer. Add in a healthy dose of fictive kinship due to the live-in nature of a nanny and you’re in a situation rife with the potential for abuse.