JD_Vyvanse [they/them, he/him]

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  • @CanYouFeelItMrKrabs@hexbear.net I wanted to respond to your post but the mega closed!

    c/dating posting

    not me, but my (very) recent partner has extremely limited dating experience before me - they just turned 33 and i’m gonna be 32 in August, so both past our late 20s! it’s very very early days but it seems chill and healthy so far, it’s definitely something the more experienced partner needs to take extra care & conscientiousness around but every relationship is unique and poses unique challenges so it’s just one form those challenges can take.

    honestly there aren’t real time limits on any of this, the “relationship escalator” and life stage discourse re: personal dating milestones are often very rooted in neurotypical ableism, heteronormativity/patriarchy, privilege around income stability and class, etc. people who are right for you will be open to your late bloomerness, anyone who is icked out by it or scared off is just an incompatible person you filtered out. you want to date people who are open minded so wading through folks for whom it’s a dealbreaker does both of you a favor.

    i wouldn’t necessarily put it in a dating profile or lead with it on a first date, but when it comes up organically it’s not something to be ashamed of or anything you should treat as a big deal IMO. exploring the reasons why you started later with someone you feel a connect with can also be a good way for them to get to know you and to build intimacy.

    just be a cool interesting and kind person and things should eventually pan out for ya!

    sorry i realize that was a lot of unsolicited advice/experience sharing around a pretty simple post lol, feel free to ignore my dumbass if you want clueless