It takes some serious mental gymnastics to acknowledge you have feelings, and thinking it’s ok to suppress those natural feelings because you can’t really hope to improve anything ever.
CBT is categorically not about suppressing feelings. That’s a reductionist view of the approach. It is about analyzing why are you having those feelings and what, in you life’s history and everyday habits, has made them the prevalent feeling, behavior or thought on certain given circumstances so you can get back into control of what you do with those. This is from an acknowledgement that your conscious self might not always align with your emotional self. It is perfectly fine to feel sad when sad things happen. But some people find it troubling that they always react with sadness or anger whenever anything happens, even happy and positive things. Well, searching why that is and what can be done to change it is a positive thing. Specially if this sadness and anger are causing trouble in your everyday life (lashing out at close persons or engaging in self-destructive behavior). You can’t get rid of the emotions, but you can acknowledge them and alter what you do with those emotions and eventually change how you spontaneously react to events in a more adaptive way.
I understand that, I’ve tried CBT and it’s impossible for it to help me because it fundamentally depends on accepting you are helpless and doesn’t properly get people in the mindset required to change their lives and society for the better.
If I actually want to give a shit about myself then that’s not something I can DELUDE myself into accepting.
The delusion I’d rather hold onto is that my life will get better, becauase in that delusion there’s at least a happy ending. I have a hard time believing that though.
I wouldn’t call it a delusion. But I understand where you’re coming from. Certainly if someone doesn’t want to change anything about themselves then therapy won’t change them by force, it’s just not something an ethical practice would ever do. However, on psychology we start from the premise that changing oneself is the first step at changing one’s circumstances. Things don’t get better by wishful thinking or spontaneously, change requires actions, and thoughts precede actions. Expecting different results from the same behaviors and thought patterns is, itself, a delusion.
It takes some serious mental gymnastics to acknowledge you have feelings, and thinking it’s ok to suppress those natural feelings because you can’t really hope to improve anything ever.
No therapy has ever been about suppressing your feelings.
Some therapy is about not suppressing them because that is natural defense mechanism for trauma.
You can acknowledge feelings while also managing them.
If you’re in a bad situation and you could do something about it, you should of course, but that often requires you to manage your feelings.
Even suppressing your feelings might be ok for a bit, if it’s what you need to fix the problem causing those feelings
CBT is categorically not about suppressing feelings. That’s a reductionist view of the approach. It is about analyzing why are you having those feelings and what, in you life’s history and everyday habits, has made them the prevalent feeling, behavior or thought on certain given circumstances so you can get back into control of what you do with those. This is from an acknowledgement that your conscious self might not always align with your emotional self. It is perfectly fine to feel sad when sad things happen. But some people find it troubling that they always react with sadness or anger whenever anything happens, even happy and positive things. Well, searching why that is and what can be done to change it is a positive thing. Specially if this sadness and anger are causing trouble in your everyday life (lashing out at close persons or engaging in self-destructive behavior). You can’t get rid of the emotions, but you can acknowledge them and alter what you do with those emotions and eventually change how you spontaneously react to events in a more adaptive way.
I understand that, I’ve tried CBT and it’s impossible for it to help me because it fundamentally depends on accepting you are helpless and doesn’t properly get people in the mindset required to change their lives and society for the better.
If I actually want to give a shit about myself then that’s not something I can DELUDE myself into accepting.
The delusion I’d rather hold onto is that my life will get better, becauase in that delusion there’s at least a happy ending. I have a hard time believing that though.
I wouldn’t call it a delusion. But I understand where you’re coming from. Certainly if someone doesn’t want to change anything about themselves then therapy won’t change them by force, it’s just not something an ethical practice would ever do. However, on psychology we start from the premise that changing oneself is the first step at changing one’s circumstances. Things don’t get better by wishful thinking or spontaneously, change requires actions, and thoughts precede actions. Expecting different results from the same behaviors and thought patterns is, itself, a delusion.