I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.
Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?
Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?
And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?
There’s no central reason, just a large imaginary orb colored with various reasons.
K couldn’t grow out of weekly spending to spend, or hoping for the impossible. She couldn’t have kids, and she held a lot of it against me for not trying hard enough when I more saw it as her not facing biological, medical reality with what her doctors were telling her, lose weight and maybe, you have a shot. No? (PCOS)
With our parents aging and no one around to take care of them, I was left with a hard decision, spin my tires on someone I had over a decade of attachment to who had grown to hate me or go take care of my disabled mom.
Coin flipped, and while I don’t regret my decision, I still miss her, but I have zero drive whatsoever to have a love life. There’s too much to do, a country in political turmoil and a busy family that I don’t want to damage with someone potentially untrustworthy.