I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

  • hactar42@lemmy.ml
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    3 days ago

    We were both in the military and got married at 20 and 19 years old. She got sent to Korea for a year and since I was due to separate I didn’t go with her. She came home to visit after 6 months and something just felt off. The day after she left I was on my computer and noticed some files in the recycle bin. I restored them and found videos of a guy jerking off and talking dirty specifically to her.

    So, then I started digging. I got into her email and found all the correspondence with a guy she met in Korea. The crazy thing was the things she was telling him were completely BS. She had basically made up an entirely different life, but with all the same people. I was apparently her asshole brother-in-law. And she came to Texas to buy a house with the “inheritance money” she got from her uncle. Needless to say she had no such uncle or money.

    This then got me thinking about stuff she’d told me throughout the years and when I tried to put things together the more they didn’t add up.

    So, ultimately I decided to leave her because of the lying. The cheating was bad don’t get me wrong, but the fact that she made up these entire different lives was just too much to come back from.