I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

  • AA5B@lemmy.world
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    12 hours ago

    It’s hard to say exactly, since the mess was even more complex than the relationship. On the surface from my perspective, she was constantly yelling at me so I sort of withdrew to protect myself. Eventually she either recognized what she turned into or decided I was too emotionally withdrawn.

    But the next layer is why we each acted like that and it becomes a mess. Looking back on it now, it’s strange to look at our behavior and wonder how it got like that

    There were clearly communications issues, and unmet needs. There were some mental health issues and some serious stress from a major physical health issue. There were self-esteem issues and empathy issues. There are always time and stress issues but what happens when you realize that work is far more relaxing than the stress of a relationship that’s not working?