I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.
Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?
Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?
And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?
I’m not quite there yet because of logistical reasons, but I feel like I spent over 25 years getting a PhD in narcissistic personality disorder. If you are previously vulnerable prior to your relationship to people like this, your partner will take you for all they can get and make everything out to be your fault, no matter what heinous things they do. When they inevitably discard you, the light will go on about exactly how horrific they were all along. I do not blame him for everything that went wrong, but he sure orchestrated most of it, and magnified and distorted my every flaw to the umpteenth degree until I felt like I ruined everything all of the time. I absolutely did not, he’s just bat shit crazy.