I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.
Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?
Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?
And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?
The trans widows things is extreme, but it would really be nice if the spouses of trans people had space to acknowledge that this is not what they signed up for, and while trans people should always be supported, their spouses DO have the right to say no, I don’t feel the same way about you without being made to feel badly for not just going along with it all. I would be supportive if it happened to me, but I would not be attracted to them any longer.
One of my childhood friends had a partner who discovered she was trans while they were in a long-term relationship. They tried to make it work but I think that only caused the whole situation to become messier.
Didn’t help that both of them were living with my friend’s mother and the partner who was transitioning refused to get a job.
Edit: Childhood friend is a woman; her ex is an MTF woman. Just to be clear on the circumstances.