I’m gay. I’m agender, and I like enbies better than men and women.

The other day in an argument I got frustrated with someone and told them to call me a homophobic slur. One part sarcasm, one part hoping they’d actually do it and get in trouble. Instead, I got punished for using the word. I wasn’t expecting that, because I’m gay. If I call myself a f-----, I didn’t think that was anyone else’s problem.

Was I right? Is it okay for me to use that word, talking about myself?

  • throwawayacc0430@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    2 days ago

    But there’s also when a group “takes back” their slurs and starts using them in a friendly way. They are essentially taking power away from those words. Maliciously calling someone a particular slur doesn’t hurt so much when they call each other that every day. It’s a good technique to disarm those who hate you.

    I don’t think it really “takes power” away from those words. Take the N word for example, the “Hard-R” variant of a word uttured by a racist white man is still hurtful.

    • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
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      2 days ago

      For sure, any words coming from hate will be hurtful.

      As far as the effectiveness of the taking it back system, 🤷🏻‍♂️ Not my place to have an opinion on that. If the affected people want to do that, I support them. If they don’t agree, I support that too.