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    27 days ago

    It’s definitely affected mine. When I see small children, I wonder what their future will be like.

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      Fucked anyone having a baby in today’s age cares nothing for that child.

      I wish I could go back, but I can’t all I can do is apologize to my children and wish I had a solution.

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        Assuming someone’s informed, I think it’s a combination of strong desire for a child, plus greater hope for the future than I have. I don’t think I’d go so far as to say that they “care nothing”. I know people with young children, and they’re certainly very loving parents.

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        I can’t see “I’m sorry I had you” being a good thing to say at any point in your child’s life.

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        As you know, kids are smart - but they’re not mind readers. They might pick up on that regret and interpret it as resentment. That would be bad. Just make sure they know you love them, and be the best parent you can. Maybe things will work out somehow.

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          Back when I was still on Reddit, I once saw a post from someone on the subject of having children in modern times. I don’t remember the exact quote, but I’ll do my best to convey the gist: “I apologized to my wife for having children with her in these times. She said ‘never apologize for raising dragon slayers in a time when there are dragons.’”

          I absolutely recognize the problems with having a kid in a time when the future is in (very legitimate) question. However, if a real solution to our problems is found, it will probably be our children (or theirs) who do so. Certainly, if no one has any more children, the species has a very definite finale more assured than any other crisis we’re currently facing.

          I have a toddler, but I worry about their future every day. Anyone who decides to not have kids (for this reason or others) isn’t wrong to do so. The dragon slayer message still strikes a chord with me, though.

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    Does that 53% include adults that decided to have zero children? The title implies not so I wonder how many adults in total are deciding to not have kids/more kids.

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    Antinatalism can often be traced back to Russian and Chinese influence campaigns spread through social media.