Looking for:

  • no misogynists (so dbzer0 is out)
  • no libertarians, no marxist lenninsts, no tankies, no rightwingers
  • people who understand climate change is real
  • leftists including anarchists, social democrats, democratic socialists, communists, etc are great

I picked world bc I was told it would have the most activity. Since joining Lemmy I have been repeatedly harassed by men on this instance, threatened with murder and rape by users including open Nazis (this was also happening on Reddit), and permabanned for being a woman, for being a feminist, and for not breaking any rules and posting factual news sources. Would like a better instance.

Have been considering solarpunk Lemmy but willing to consider other instances, just not sure

Eta: I’m looking for a recommendation of an instance, not your personal opinion on my experiences or feelings. If you are not going to give me the name of an instance you’d recommend, don’t comment.

Here’s an article on tone policing: https://www.housing.wisc.edu/2023/12/inclusive-language-series-tone-policing-2/

• You need to recognize the indicators of tone policing, such as telling someone to calm down or to lower their tone for their message to be better received.

• Understand that various levels of emotions will often be expressed, especially during political or hot topic conversations.

• To refrain from invalidating other people’s feelings, try self-reflecting on your desire to invalidate their emotions and think about if this is due to your own discomfort.

• Tone policing must stop, especially when engaging in conversations regarding experiences with discrimination, oppression, and racism.

Here’s an article on hysteria: https://www.bps.org.uk/psychologist/hysteria-historical-mirror-misogyny-medicine

During the early 20th century, women were thought to be unfit for politics as their biology made them prone to hysteria. The suffrage movement became linked to hysteria and mental disorder, due to propaganda from the press and the government (Iglikowski-Broad, 2018). Attempts at militancy in their pursuit for equality were branded as hysteria by anti-suffrage supporters, demonstrating how use of mental health could be used to belittle the efforts of the women at the time (Thompson, 2016).

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    I think I really need a ELI5 about those instances. Like, I thought the instance doesn’t matter, since I can see comments from users outside of lemmy.world? I feel so dumb. lol

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      It typically doesn’t. But some instances do defederate with some others, though it’s rare. Lemmygrad.ml, for example, is a “tankie”-oriented instance. A lot of instances don’t get along with it and have defederated from it. Your home instance is lemmy.world, and if you look here:

      https://lemmy.world/instances

      Click on the “Blocked Instances” tab to see a list of instances that lemmy.world has defederated from.

      You’ll notive that lemmygrad.ml is on that list, so you won’t see any content from that instance.

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      Yeah, I thought I understood also. Clearly, someone is mistaken though, I’m just not sure if it’s me or the OP which is disorienting.

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      Some instances have different policies of conduct. Lemmy.world is a pretty general instance, so it won’t really impact most people.