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      Yes. That’s a big part of what’s going on. A lot of men, particularly poor and middle class, have no real culture of interaction and have been told they are worth the money they make a month and nothing else.

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        I think homosexuality has reached a level of societal acceptance(at least in the west), that it is ok to be ironically homophobic again.

        Then again, some might argue that being against nazis was a societal norm, so being ironically nazi was fine too. Yet here we are now, where being unironically nazi is somewhat acceptable by a large part of the society.

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          It’s a way for people to recognize that times have changed and that by making jokes ironically it means that yes they are accepted as gay and that we do acknowledge that it was a real struggle in the past

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            Yeah, exactly, I thought that that comment was forcefully trying to find the post offensive

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        Maybe we should think about these memes less as complex thought-out statements, and more as reflections of the times they are created in, just like all art.

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        "I spend my free time playing Marvel games and Fortnite, I never go outside and never try to meet new people in any way.

        Why is society making me so lonely? 🥺🥺 How come w*men won’t eff me? 🤬🤬🤬"

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    Keep in mind they call each other bro because in 45 years they don’t even know each others names since they met.

    Would die for each other tho.

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    When offer to go to lunch with someone you haven’t seen in 15 years and they respond with as long as its not within 100ft of a school

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    Stereotypes, get your stereotypes, fresh gender stereotypes right here.

    Men who don’t marry are gay and woman are always mad at each other over nothing.

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      Also it’s not manly to share your life with a friend apparently.

      I’m 40+ and a couple of months ago started therapy. I didn’t even knew I needed therapy, went with my wife for couple therapy and it quickly turned into personal therapy.

      What I learned after some tests is that I fall into the top 4% of men who are emotional closed off. This is pretty extreme, but maybe the worst part is, I never even knew. This is the stereotype we teach boys, men don’t have emotions, they don’t talk about emotions, etc.

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          Thanks, it’s kind of weird how much change this made in a few months. It also really changed my relationship with my parents and made it less superficial. Can highly recommend to dig in your own past a bit and see what you pushed way down, and actually deal with it.

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            Thanks for the recommendation. I know it’s something I need to do but I don’t have the funds right now - working on that though!

            I do meditation, journalling, but I know there’s more to mental health than what you can do on your own.

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    I enjoyed the stereotype to laugh it but I feel obligated to state one thing. Relationships require maintenance, that’s it regardless of boy or girl. Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.

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      Idunno I have quite a few friends where we only interact like every 4-8 months ish. But when we do we talk everyday for a month or two, then go separate ways again. Lifes busy we all know that. Not being in contact does no mean losing a friend.

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      Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.

      True. But I’ve had some great friendships grow after years of just “hi” in passing. We weren’t friends yet, but we were destined to become friends.

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      True, but I also don’t want to be friends with you if you get upset because I’m not constantly sharing my whole life story with you at all times.

      I’ve had my share of high maintenance friends, and I burn out so quick.

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      But if you’re an incel and a Chad says “hi” back then yeah, it’s a big deal for those weirdos

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      And it’s ultimately insulting to men too, like the idea of being excited to share personal news is somehow anathema to the male experience.

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        I don’t know how serious one has to take themselves to find this “ultimately insulting”. It’s a silly meme and it’s funny because most men can relate to it.

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            I’m not even that other person, just letting you know you’re an asshole.

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            Just so you know, this isn’t Reddit. You’ve just been blocked by everyone reading along here.

            If you start to feel like no one replies here, it’s actually you, in this case. It could help to try again with a new account.

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        Low maintenance friendships are the best ships 🛳️

        I’m no psychoanalyst but it sounds like someone is insecure in their ability to love and be loved and would prefer to guarantee a balanced reciprocity of low effort on both sides.

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        How about transitioning to a woman, then marrying their female best friend? I feel like that would at least be slightly less gay

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          It is a little weird when you meet an old friend and they are now trans

          I respect but it was a culture shock

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    As a woman, yeah i totally accidentally told my bros I got married a few years after the fact. In my defense we eloped and my friends and I sometimes go a few years without talking much

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    Shit, that reminds me I should text my best friend, he might be a father by now.

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        It’s probably been two years. Ever since he got married and moved out of town this has been normal for us. Also he works during the day and I work during the night so it’s difficult to find a good time to talk.

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      Oh, friends assume sexual preference based on other things too. Like the way you eat a hotdog, what kind of car you drive, how quickly you can recognize that the song is by Kyle Minogue, how long you hold a sloppy french kiss with your homies, wether you you sit with your legs crossed or slow down on a yellow light.

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        Damn, I can never remember how long to french kiss my bros either! Have been called gay so many times for it.

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          My one homie always wants me to hold eye contact while I’m blowing him. I’m like, bro that’s so gay just cum in my mouth already.