Sometimes extreme low self-esteem can lead you to give up on “scoring” so you start talking to beautiful people with no hang ups. It’s not like you have a chance, right? Might as well enjoy their company, even if it’s just for friends. Suddenly you realize you have tons in common and you like their company. You hang out together every day. They are such a good friend. Then one day they say “hey”, look at you straight in the eyes, and kiss you.
We’ve been together for thirty years last August.
I agree with this. I had this gorgeous friend that I never once tried making a move on our flirting with, cause she was way out of my league. We got to hanging out alone a lot and I would never do anything but just act like a normal, non horny person for once. All of a sudden she’s kissing me. Like wtf?! Good times.
That’s why I always tell people to stop ‘looking’, that’s just desperate and off-putting. Friendships will turn into relationships if its meant to be.
these are all great stories but what if it doesn’t happen and you stay single for life
If that’s your worry, you never stopped “looking”
How so? I’m not “looking” at all. I’m just seeing my friends once in a while and occasionally making new friends. Outside of that I’m just focusing on my studies. I’ve stopped caring about dating for a long time. Of course that doesn’t mean I’ve stopped wishing to meet someone.
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That’s the thing, it will work 100% guaranteed. As long as you’re open to new friendships. Will the first person fall in love with you? Probably not. The second? Also probably not. That’s the beauty of it, you’ll either have an SO or a ton of friends, and having a friend of the opposite gender is like wingman paradise.
No it won’t. I tried that for 30 years with no success.
For some people, if you don’t put in effort you will not get any of those things.
It will, maintaining friendships and especially new ones requires a lot of effort. I’m saying when you meet people you don’t think they’ll be your SO, but rather a new friend. That’s now an entirely different conversation, one which has a much more relaxed nature, increasing the chances of a potential relationship.
Yeah well I already have a ton of friends. I just think you can’t claim it will work 100% for everyone, because you can’t prove that.
You’re missing the point by like a mile, you have to be open to new ones. Relationships don’t just appear out of nowhere.
I am. I’m just saying it’s not because you got lucky that this will work out for everyone, so it’s not 100%
The story above happened because someone made a move.
Make the move! You’ll know and they’ll know when the moment is right, but don’t rush it!
I’m glad I’m not searching for romantic advice in this thread because if I were I’d be so confused.
Should I search for a friendship instead of a relationship? Should I make a move? Should I make a move on my friends?!
Do you think your friends are as cute as buttons?
Tina Belcher is my spiritual guide on this issue. Nothing wrong with a little erotic friend-fiction becoming reality.
Congrats! 30 years is amazing.
Then one day they say “hey”, look at you straight in the eyes, and kiss you.
yeah one day…
It will only when you know, deep in your heart, that it is never gonna happen. Hope is cruel.
Also, it helps if you are pursuing a genuine friendship, not just trying to be a “friend” while secretly girlfriend-zoning them.
Done
Don’t forget to put yourself out there. Interact.
This is so, so dead on.
Congrats, grandpa!
Don’t seek a relationship. Seek a friendship and a relationship may bloom.
Congratulations!
I can see shaggy being a total hit with goth girls. He’s got lots of spooky stories and he brings snacks. What’s not to like?
Also he has a talking pet and can play the guitar 🤘🏻
And lots of weed
I can get in on all that without having sex with him. I just come to hang, my bro!
I don’t recall him ever playing the guitar in the original cartoon. Is that some kind of retcon shit?
https://youtu.be/XDAKXB86U_Y at 0:22
If Scooby was a black talking cat, they be all over him from the get go. A large dog might take some getting used to.
True in my case, but there’s a good reason. We started dating in HS. She has a late growth spurt, and her boobs got huge. She really filled out everywhere. And considering she was an ex athlete, she really was something to behold.
I remember being at work, and seeing a bombshell walking across the parking lot. I was in awe. And then I realized it was her. I knew it was doomed from that point on. She was constantly getting hit on by everyone by that point.
My girlfriend even went to metal shows with me. She crawled through GWARs worm once. I was so close with the band Lamb of God. This was the years 2000/2001, so they weren’t popular yet. Apparently John Campbell would talk about her tits behind my back.
I even had several people say I looked like shaggy. And over twenty years later, I go to the grocery store wearing brown sweatpants and a green shirt. That was today.
Matrix confirmed.
If Matrix was here, he’d laugh too.
That’s amazing. This is the good wholesome stuff.
It’s creative writing from a sad pro bono comedian bro, the green shirt and brown pants? Come on
People forgot how powerful Shaggy is because it was too stressful to contemplate
They’re not posing to get their picture taken, Shaggy just appeared there, and she was instantly paralyzed
ah that’s probably it, maybe I’m just too handsome to get a gorgeous girlfriend
A few friends said that me. Pretty sure it was just to keep me going. Though One time my old 4th grade teacher stopped me when I went to my brother’s parent day. Asked me if I was single and wanted to meet her child. Sadly I wasn’t and my brother was there so couldn’t lie even if It occurred to me to. Felt very random. Especially how forward she was on all that.
lmao imagine asking someone out for your child, that’s really not ok. poor kid…
Weirdly, Not as uncommon In my life. I had 2 arranged marriages that I am very happy fell through. My father kept trying to arrange with his customers kids. He made huge deal when I wouldn’t indulge him any further.
Ya’ll better put some respect on my man’s name. Shaggy was a real one, even when he was scared. And he came with snacks.
I remember seeing a pretty goth girl holding hands with a guy in a full Adidas tracksuit and thinking how unusual yet awesome it was to see people from completely different social groups in a relationship.
Whoa you saw Johnathan Davis?!
Cousin! Let’s go bowling.
I’ve been the boyfriend in this situation with a hot goth chick. No idea what she saw in me.
Why is this in the past tense?
She moved on. I was young and stupid and she had better things to do than deal with an insecure loser like me. She had a really awesome black chevy nova with a license plate ‘SPOOKY1’ and one of the most awesome things we did was make a bleeding heart cake to impress her pretentious goth friends. A few years back though, she died from a heroin overdose, her Mom had reached out to me on facebook and we talked some, she was a nice lady. Ex-gf had apparently been having some issues in her life and had not-good influences that pushed her back into drugs. C’est la vie.
oh no…
Depends on what kind of imaging she was using. Did she ever rub Doritos dust on your belly?
She’s only dating him to get to Scoob.
Short hair bisexual women and their tall long haired skinny boyfriends is also a trend I have noticed
My short hair bisexual daughters are actually both with skinny guys that are about their height, not tall. Like, they can swap clothing size guys.
i wonder why that is
Don’t you be dissing Shaggy!
Honestly shaggy and Jeff from American Dad are exactly my “type”
Stoners who would go to the end of the earth for the people they love
One review of Multiversus mentioned “I never thought I would describe Shaggy as one of the most powerful shoto charachters, but that seems to be the case”.
Oh you know Shaggy is schwangin’ that schlang.
Shaggy has some densely elongated schlang.
As a bitter short guy the first thing I saw was “yeah, he’s tall.”
I guess at least I recognize I’m an asshat lol
oof being short in NL must be fun. unless, wait, how short is short to you? 179cm?
I’m from the US so in freedumb units I’m 5’7" and looking it up that’s 170cm I guess lol
