• hansolo@lemmy.today
      122·
      23 天前

      Hey, talking to a counselor or a therapist can seriously help. Even just having someone to bounce thoughts off of, totally worth it. Please consider it.

      • Mister Neon@lemmy.world
        20·
        22 天前

        I need a job. I’m eating less to afford housing. This isn’t a case of “my life is fine and I have feelings”. I don’t have family willing to help me.

        I’m hungry and worried about becoming homeless, again. Talking to people does not help me or make me feel better. I’ve tried, I paid a lot of money for therapy, and they all failed me.

        • hansolo@lemmy.today
          9·
          22 天前

          OK, that’s fair. Without info it can be hard to tell what type of “shit is bad and I need help” you’re in.

          I was homeless as a kid, and I hear you on that fear. Like you know that at least it’s probably survivable, but also total shit and being constantly on edge and miserable. Especially with shit family. I’m sorry there’s nothing I can do to help you. I won’t try and pump you up unnecessarily, but at least it sounds like you’re trying to think through your options rationally. Keep trying your best, it’s all any of us can do.

          Feel free to vent or send a DM any time. And hey, at least I just saved you $100 in garbage pretend therapy.

        • HubertManne@piefed.socialEnglish
          3·
          21 天前

          This. Both my wife and I, I am sure have depression, but its not for no reason. Its no ennui and heck its not even everything happening with the country. Its actual daily reality.

      • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
        13·
        22 天前

        Idk where the user above is, but mental health is just so fucking expensive in the US. I have a good job, but it’s hard for me to stomach a $150 bill for each appointment (average price I’ve found). I’ve started and stopped quickly after so many times because it’s really hard for me to rationalize draining my HSA account for something that might never end up benefiting me.

  • reluctant_squidd@lemmy.caEnglish
    42·
    23 天前

    The awesome people in the world. The loud, mean ones are easier to spot and spew their crap confidently, but the less obnoxious, actually nice people are everywhere.

    Don’t let the media and Internet fool you.

    PS: And if you can help a decent human in need, please do.

    • anon6789@lemmy.world
      13·
      22 天前

      Getting involved in activities has really helped me see there are a ton of folks out there still doing amazing and positive things.

      I’ve started playing music with other people again and we’ve played 2 small public shows and some events where we just play for each other and everyone has been very supportive and we have a great time.

      I also volunteered at the wild animal rescue this year, and it’s hard to choose if the people or animals are more amazing. Well, the people are much friendlier than the animals, but seeing the things they can come back from really can feel like witnessing miracles sometimes.

      But that’s twice a week I get to hang out with people that help me grows, support me being a better and more rounded person, and we forget about outside troubles and put everything into a positive activity together. It’s been a major help this year.

        • DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works
          9·
          23 天前

          Still illegal federally. A DEA agent still has the legal authority to arrest you (although, I doubt a jury would actually convict you). A non-citizen caught smoking weed can be denied citizenship if they try to naturalize. And they could face deportation proceedings. Even if you naturalize, if they found out you lied about the smoking weed, the administration could try to denaturalize you, especially this current administration would definitely attempt to.

      • iii@mander.xyzEnglish
        6·
        22 天前

        Illegal in whole of EU. Personal use is not prosecuted solely in Netherlands, Germany and Portugal I think.

    • NιƙƙιDιɱҽʂ@lemmy.world
      9·
      22 天前

      For what it’s worth, from one internet stranger to another, I’m sorry.

      No one should feel so betrayed on all fronts. That’s awful :(

    • BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world
      4·
      22 天前

      While I feel everything you wrote in my soul and can empathize with almost every part, know that you are loved by an internet stranger. You deserve happiness, fulfillment, and peace. You are a work of art. Sometimes art is sad or depressing or horrifying, but even with those themes it is beautiful and impactful and moving. You are a work of art that always changes. Learn to love that art, learn to nurture it. Treat it like the masterpiece it is and put it where the world can enjoy it.

      I’m here for you if you ever need someone to talk to. I’m not always the most upbeat person given — literally everything — but I’m happy to be a friend.

      P.S. Thank you for all the content you share. You are a cornerstone of the fediverse.

    • IndolentRoshi@lemmy.world
      4·
      22 天前

      I’m sorry to hear that for you. I hope you can stumble upon, create, or be gifted a life you feel is worth living. I hope you find a good reason to hope.

        • MagicShel@lemmy.zipEnglish
          2·
          21 天前

          Hey, friend. Just remember that broken trust speaks ill of them, not you. And as for a bad track record, I find that the most trusting people are also the most trustworthy. Right now that’s pretty much all I know about you, but it’s enough to believe you’re making the world around you better. I don’t think your problem is trust, but rather being in a position where broken trust leaves you in an untenable situation.

          I don’t know your reasons for hating yourself. Those belong to you. But whatever they are, whether they are valid or not, you don’t deserve hate. Hell, I wouldn’t waste my time hating anyone — hate has never solved a single problem. Give yourself some grace and room to make mistakes and improve. And then to stumble and do it again. We all have.

          No lie, part of life is just luck, and for that part I hope yours is good. But the rest of it is in your hands, and those sound like decent hands to be in.

            • MagicShel@lemmy.zipEnglish
              1·
              21 天前

              I mean I’ve felt that way before, too. In my case, when I’m not on my ADHD meds, I’m truly a worthless person, contributing nothing at work, waiting around to get fired, etc. I also needed my wife and family to unlock my self-worth in other ways, but that’s a lot more personal and fraught. Maybe there is something that can unlock your worth however you choose to measure it. Good luck, bother.

  • Kennystillalive@feddit.org
    16·
    23 天前

    For me it’s the fact that I have people I care for and know they care for me. As well as the fact that when you turn of the internet people are not as hatefull as the internet seems them out to be.

  • Hossenfeffer@feddit.ukEnglish
    15·
    23 天前

    We’re going through a shaky patch in the UK right now, with fascist wannabes like Tommy Robinson and Nigel Farage rising in popularity. It’s sad because I thought we were better than that but then Brexit happened and I wouldn’t be surprised if our next government was a Reform majority. And if they get in they’ll do everything they can to secure power forever.

    What keeps me hopeful, in the face of this shitstorm, is the sense of community in my neighbourhood. People on my street look out for each other and support each other.

    • als@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      4·
      22 天前

      My short term goal in life right now is to move from where I live to somewhere with a greater sense of community that isn’t based around being old and white

  • MisterCurtis@lemmy.world
    15·
    23 天前

    Any time I engage with my community.

    It’s easy to stay home, doom scroll and think there is nothing we can do. I know I’m lucky to live where I live, where the doom is just distant thunder. But joining community events makes me realize we’re not going to go down without a fight.

  • Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    14·
    23 天前

    Seeing resistance in every form. Every spontaneous protest that protects someone from being abducted. Every boss that plants their feet in the door of a business and tells ICE to go fuck themselves. Every notice taped to a business door telling ICE they aren’t welcome. Every fundraiser supporting people afraid to go to work. Every bit of graffiti and sticker on every surface.

  • snoons@lemmy.caEnglish
    13·
    23 天前

    Scientists working on very specific issues that might not seem impactful atm but taken with all other papers of similar rapport, they represent a somewhat unified front working against the destruction of everything we know and love.

    • abbadon420@sh.itjust.works
      9·
      23 天前

      I was in that state 10 years ago. Something good did happen and I’m happy I stuck around for it. It was worth all the misery. In fact, the misery raises the value of all the good things.

      • zerozaku@lemmy.worldEnglish
        5·
        22 天前

        Did you do something for it happen? Because sometimes I think “Nothing changes, if nothing changes” is true and but then again I get tired of doing things, I’ll spiral back to “I’ll just stick around” mood.

        • abbadon420@sh.itjust.works
          8·
          22 天前

          Yes, I changed a lot of things, but I also met a lot of wonderful people that made my life much better.
          I do believe that you have to take action. I kinda love being lazy, but I never feel particularly good after an entire day on the couch. The more I do, the more I accomplish, the better I feel.